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  To Christmas or Not to Christmas (inspired by Watersprout's DA thread)

  by Mad Sweeney in

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  my wife and kid want to do christmas but i don't.

  i am not against it but i have no reason to celebrate the holiday.

  i'll get the kid some presents, and maybe my wife, but is that alone really "celebrating christmas?

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  "How is ANYTHING that makes us more loving a bad thing ??"

  EXACTLY !! That's how I feel about holidays and birthdays .
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  Do you give out free stuff where you work at?

  by asilentone in

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  i just like free stuff/samples.

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  We give out free samples of FUDGE everyday, and sample size cups of flavored coffee . THe fudge is made fresh in our store every Monday ,it really smells gooood in there on Mondays . During the holidays we have samples of dips and soups . Right now the featured fudge is Pumpkin made with pumpkin pie filling .....sounds weird but it very good . October is also fudge covered apple drizzeled with carmel month .

  You have to actually be in the store for your free sample though We do mail fudge for a price though
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  Why wasn't there anyone as nice as you guys in my KH?

  by Little Imp in

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  when i first started attending the kh i was newly married and had moved to a new area over an hour away from my nearest family and friends.

  i was excited about going (believing it would be similar to churches i had attended in the past) and thought it would be a good way to make new friends.. how wrong was i, no-one seemed to have any personality or sense of humour.. i tried inviting people round for a meal, boy that was an uphill struggle and i lived to regret it.. now, though i haven't met any of you, i feel as i though i know you and would feel totally comfortable in your company and would have got on like a house on fire if we had had a meal together.

  the strange thing is all of you have or still do attend a kh and are sooooooooooo different.. discuss.

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  The KH I grew up in was full of a bunch of stuffed shirts ! It could have been because my Mom was married to an unbeliever ,but we never were invited to others homes or out to do much . So there were no close bonds with anyone in that hall .

  When I got married at 18 I moved away to my husbands hall . What a huge difference ! Lots of other young couples plus both his parents were witnesses . We had people over all the time and were invited out to do lots of things . I felt I had real friends for the first time as a witness . However the judgemental attitudes could prevail . There was tons of pressure to do and say what others expected you to do .

  Especially after we started having children I noticed the pressure to conform or else be excluded ,cliques formed as people obtained positions in the hall . One example I'll never forget is when my brother in law became an Elder . We use to have lots of fun getting together for dinners and cards ,but after their first child was born he came over and asked if I would pioneer with his wife . I also had just had a baby and i told him "NO" I did not want to drag my newborn door to door in the cold winter air . That was it for them I did not have the pioneer spirit so then I was not good association for them anymore ! And the cliques began.......

  When we left after 30 yrs in the same hall ......I can not think of one true companion in a group of over 100 . Lots of associates ,but not one true friend that would come to my home and ask " What happened ??? Why did you leave ?"

  I think it is correct to say I feel like I have my real personality back along with my heart and soul (maybe a few brain cells survived too !) . My friends now are comfortable to be around open ,and honest, and not afraid to offend or step on anyones toes .
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  copies of wt

  by ssn587 in

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  i lost the info on how to get copies of the current and upcoming watchtowers any can help?

  would surely appreciate it and thank you in advance..

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  local laundry mat usually works I stop by there just to throw them away
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  long time lurker

  by BigE in

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  Still Lurking I see incognito style . A lurker that wants everyone to know they are lurking
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  Has anyone successfully faded without moving out of the territory?

  by NiceDream in

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  so far i've managed to avoid speaking to the elders who drop by.

  just wondering if they'll eventually give up in a couple years.

  anyone have experience with this?.

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  Stopped meetings in 2006 . Got an Elder visit a few months after we stopped .He stopped by and asked if there was anything we needed to talk about ,We said "NO" ,and that was it for the next four yrs " .......

  UNTIL I put some winter decorations up this past winter on our porch......If you want a successful fade DO NOT DO THIS ! lol

  It is more important to me to do what I want before I die than to live one more day in fear of these people anymore .( Of course I can say that because all the important people in my life are now out,..... so I can be so 'Brazen".

  My decorations brought the Elders radar into overdrive . It became harrassment because I refused to allow them to question my personal life . I sent a cease and desist letter to them and had a law officer explain what No contact means .....that has worked . Since they can not contact me I have no idea if I am DA'd now or not .. I think they are waiting to see what I do THIS winter ,because if it is clearly Christmas decor they can DA without talking to me . (The last time I saw an Elder in public he completely shunned me ,but still talked to my husband ....so I don't know what that means ..am I marked or DA'd ???)

  What will I do ??? What will I do ???
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  HHHHEEEELLLLPPPP MMMMEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  by Judge Dread in

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  i'mmmmmmmm mmmmeltingggggggg!!!!!!!!!.

  it was 113 in los angeles today.. 107 where i live.. 106 in santa monica which is always the coolest city in the l.a. area.. power outages, fires........all we need is an earthquake.. jdw .

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  I pulled my flannel pjs out for tonight because it is suppose to be 45 degrees tonite ! Not trying to rub it in your nose by any means ,just saying ..brrr.

  I hate when it is unbelievably hot ....like what your experiencing .Hope your air conditioning is better at home than in the car . Can you go swimming ? Or at least a really cold shower ?

  If it makes you feel any better we started school in early August this year when the temps were still in the 90's and humidity was 80% ......Now imagine being parked in an un-air-conditioned School bus with fifty sweating ,smelly ,cranky school kids inside .....waiting for twenty minutes as the kindergarten kids find their buses for the year It was like a huge metal sweat box !
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  What's the policy...

  by MrFreeze in

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  what is the policy for disfellowshipped people in your family for when they get sick?

  for instance.

  let's say your disfellowshipped son/daughter gets seriously sick and needs someone to help take care of this.

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  I knew an Elder that allowed his adult df'd daughter back into his home ,and the Elder body gave him so much crap about it he stepped down . She was pregnant and needed financial help .

  It seems to me small mid-west congregations have a reputation for being more strict and hard nosed . You will find not every Elder body having the same policy (so much for being UNITED ).

  I knew another family that had their df'd son still living at home . The father was counseled for still taking his son fishing and doing regular family stuff with his son . The Dad was not a servant so they didn't really have anything to pressure him with ,but they did give a local needs talk that stressed how to treat df'd relatives . It was mentioned you should not be continuing to act as 'business as usual ' because that would be sending the wrong message to the df'd one ! You know it is suppose to hurt and be painful otherwise why would they want to return to the loving arms of the congregation
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  As a JW, did you love your job "too much"?

  by compound complex in

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  greetings, friends:.

  i recall not too long ago that an article in one of the publications [km, awake!, wt ...

  ] mentioned a young sister who had a flourishing day-care service that she loved.

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  Coco ,I had an Elder advise me not to 'like my job too much "

  I had to work because we were barely making ends meet with three little children . Once all the kids were in school I went to work in a little gift shop in town . I liked being able to use my artistic abilities making displays and such . Why couldn't he just be happy for me ?
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  I didn't even know i WAS an apostate!

  by GrandmaJones in

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  i am currently just sick with grief.

  i can't believe this is happening to me.

  all the jokes i've made about me never "falling out of the truth" and self confidence about my spirituality.

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  >>I didn't even know i WAS an apostate!<<<

  That's okay. I don't think they know they are idiots...

  HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA that was perfect